Pg 358
Shadow programs the way your body feels through the way your parents felt about thier body
How did my mom feel about her body? She was frigid (from my point of view). I do think this extended to sexuality, and I support this assertion. It was passed onto me. I am very protective of my body, and my body is my currency. I have used it this way many times throughout my life to posit myself in different relationships.
Would I say I am frigid? Yes. Do I feel it is a bad thing? No. There is a field of thought that says it is a higher course to pursue solidarity. Soveriengty in ones own body. I don’t want to share my DNA or have someone else’s DNA inserted into me. I don’t want to think about fluids and mess. Sexual attraction is messy physically and emotionally. I don’t want to think about someone else’s mouth before i kiss them.
My first boyfriend had great teeth, but was a smoker. I really didn’t know how to kiss. I still really don’t. I have time to learn. I know how to make my body sing, but am less interested in it because the thoughts which come with it are not ones I want to give a home to. I am on a dry run in the masturbation department and haven’t looked at any porn or even sexual material in some time. (No mast = months, no porn = over a year). This included throwing out all my toys and vibrators. It is no surprise for me that i can do this because my marriage is non sexual. I have bodily autonomy
Women in particular are called frigid as a way of harassing them into sex. Frigid is a throw back to times when humans needed more humans on earth. With 8 billion humans and a growing AI population there is no need for more children (IMO - though others believe we need a lot more people SOON, and evidence on YouTube shows this to be a growing trend as more women are having more children RIGHT NOW in North America despite the economy)
Frigid was a point of view and a judgement of a woman who refused to play nice in society. Who didn’t give it up (sex) when anyone asked.
I also grew up in a NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
What a terrible setup to humans. Not just women. Society is training people to be double standarded from childhood. As time moves forward, we are going through a human short squeeze (an economic term for when a.bottleneck occurs). The squeeze is trying to maneuver from childhood beliefs into something reasonable that can fit our lives.
Let us imagine a twenty something marrying with no sex before marriage. Let us assume a great up bringing and a healthy idea of pleasure and self confidence. THEN this is a recipe for success as long as one partner can MODEL good behavior for the other and they are both willing to work and experiement and remain open minded.
It is quite likely that this young woman was FRIGID to her suitors before her husband.
Most people aren’t so lucky to be born to parents who are well adjusted which means we are programmed in our first seven years to make compromise with our body and our mentality about ourselves.
Frigid is a societal manipulation.
It should die in a ditch by a roadside mourned by no one.
We are all Frigid, until we meet the one that makes us smile, that makes our blood move, that makes us dumb, that makes us love struck and activates parts of our bodies by default. (This lasts only so long, but long enough to make a deep enough connection to see if we both have enough life skills to make things work, to be adventurous, to want the other persons best life, to mix dna and make something better than we were)
Frigid flips to DELIGHT and ECSTASY
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